Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”
Family: n. Set of parents and children, or of relations, living together or not.
Would you know if a family member was in crisis?
Would you hear their cries for help, no matter how silent?
And even if you could, would you be able to help?
No matter how close knit the family unit, sometimes only an outside professional can help. It is often easier to confide in a trained therapist without fear of judgement or disapproval.
But this is not to say that the presence of family isn’t important and this is where Robyn’s approach to family therapy differs. Robyn believes that seeing family members together produces more positive and lasting results.
In Family Therapy, with the whole family involved, individuals are forced to be more truthful and accountable, and the core issues of the disorders are revealed much sooner. Robyn’s extensive study and experience in family therapy has also revealed that people recover much faster with the support of their natural social groups as well.
Robyn’s Family Therapy sessions address both Blended families and Intact families.
Jane*, 21, seemed to have everything. Youth, beauty and an international career as a ski-instructor – what more could a girl want? But what her mother wanted, was for Jane to stop self-harming.
Jane’s mother brought her to me for family therapy. The self-harming began after Jane’s breakup with her boyfriend. She had become numb and had stopped ‘feeling’. She had no appetite for food or for sex and the only way she could tell that she was still alive was the sensation of pain from cutting herself.
During the course of the therapy, it became clear that Jane’s career contributed to her lack of ‘feeling’. Her jet-setting lifestyle left her rootless and her work in numbing, frozen environments was merely a metaphor for her life. I suggested that she consider changing her profession and establish a home base near her family which would give her an anchor and a sense of community.
This enabled Jane to learn how to connect with people again, rather than just to make acquaintances with people that she would never meet again, travelling the world following the ski seasons. Once she began to create ‘real’ relationships, she began to feel again and her emotions and appetites returned. Jane no longer feels the need to self-harm – she has ‘unfrozen’.
* Name has been changed to protect the patient’s identity and privacy